My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
To be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger is not an easy thing and requires a conscious effort. James is not saying we won’t get angry, or we cannot talk, he is placing God’s way above our quick draw emotional rants. We have emotions but we need not be controlled by them. How many times has a situation turned ugly because of misunderstandings between parties who have not listened properly? Proverbs often places wisdom with restraint and understanding (Proverbs 17:27) and this can be achieved with the help of God.
We are called to be listeners and cautious with our words. Take a moment and note when you feel your emotions taking over, ask yourself “why am I feeling this way?” or “what am I really angry about?” It may be a change of habit for you, or in some cases you may need to seek help to find strategies. At all times though it is with the help of God, ask the Holy Spirit to help you in this journey.
God help me to be aware of when my emotions are getting the better of me. Help me to hear what the other person is saying. Thank you You have the strength for me to change my habits, thank you You are there to give me hope that I can change. I place you before my emotions, and trust you in my circumstances.